{"id":1014,"date":"2013-03-28T14:17:21","date_gmt":"2013-03-28T18:17:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/?p=1014"},"modified":"2020-01-23T12:53:43","modified_gmt":"2020-01-23T12:53:43","slug":"rule-one","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/2013\/03\/28\/rule-one\/","title":{"rendered":"Rule One*"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This was an ask on my Tumblr, but I just had to repost it.<\/p>\n<div><em>Hi there! I have a bit of a dilemma at the moment. I&#8217;m in a long term poly relationship (together 6 years, poly for 1.5) I&#8217;ve recently found myself very attracted to a professor at my school- I&#8217;m 21, he&#8217;s 30. The attraction seems to be very mutual in that there is chemistry and some flirting, but never anything inappropriate. But, he&#8217;s married. I have never been with anyone that much older than me, much less had experience asking a person in an assumed mono relationship if they are poly. Help?<\/em><\/div>\n<p>You bet I have some advice.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be a fucking idiot.<\/p>\n<p>A) He\u2019s a professor, for pity\u2019s sake. \u00a0Even if he is not YOUR professor, that\u2019s a bit of an ethics violation.<\/p>\n<p>B) You have no reason in the world to believe he\u2019s poly.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s literally millions of suitable men in the world that would be great for you. \u00a0Pass this one by.<\/p>\n<p>________________________________________<\/p>\n<p>* Rule One is &#8220;Don&#8217;t be a fucking idiot.&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This was an ask on my Tumblr, but I just had to repost it. Hi there! I have a bit of a dilemma at the moment. I&#8217;m in a long term poly relationship (together 6 years, poly for 1.5) I&#8217;ve recently found myself very attracted to a professor at my school- I&#8217;m 21, he&#8217;s 30&#8230;.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1014","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ask-the-misanthrope"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1014","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1014"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1014\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1193,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1014\/revisions\/1193"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1014"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1014"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1014"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}