A letter I got recently and a question I was asked in\nanother forum really got me to thinking. \n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The question was:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
How did you come to realize that polyamorous relationships were right for you? Now that you live this lifestyle, do you think that it\u2019s for everyone or more \u201cnatural\u201d than monogamy?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I answered:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Polyamory is absolutely and certainly not<\/strong> for everyone. I get far, far too many letters from people who\ntie themselves into knots to be polyamorous and are miserably unhappy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It baffles me why they should do such a thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Natural for humans is sleeping in trees and eating dinner\nwhile it\u2019s still wriggling. I\u2019m not too worried about \u201cnatural.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n I was then asked something that brought me up short. It was such<\/em>\na good question:<\/p>\n\n\n\n What do you think are the signs that someone can be or might\nnot be into polyamory before trying it? Or is it just something people have to\ntry first? <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is good, and you need to think hard about it if you\u2019re\nconsidering polyamory. If you are reluctant to try polyamory, or if you feel\nkinda meh and unenthusiastic about it, if it doesn\u2019t sound like the most awesome thing evah<\/em>, I would say\nthat trying it isn\u2019t a great idea. You want a deep, from the soul yes<\/strong> to try it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m not saying that\u2019s going to protect you from all\nscrewups. It totally won\u2019t. I\u2019ve had those feelings about things and had them\nturn out to be a mistake, but I think it has still reduced the number of\nchoices I\u2019ve made that did not make me happy or enrich my soul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If it isn\u2019t enriching your life, if it doesn\u2019t bring you\njoy, there is no<\/strong> good reason to do\nit \u2013 nope, not even to extend the length of a relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" A letter I got recently and a question I was asked in another forum really got me to thinking. The question was: How did you come to realize that polyamorous relationships were right for you? Now that you live this lifestyle, do you think that it\u2019s for everyone or more \u201cnatural\u201d than monogamy? I answered:…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[12,13],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1063","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-rant","category-relationships"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1063","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1063"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1063\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1064,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1063\/revisions\/1064"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1063"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1063"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1063"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}