{"id":364,"date":"2010-01-18T10:41:58","date_gmt":"2010-01-18T14:41:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/?p=364"},"modified":"2010-01-18T10:41:58","modified_gmt":"2010-01-18T14:41:58","slug":"how-to-score-with-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/2010\/01\/18\/how-to-score-with-women\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Score with Women"},"content":{"rendered":"

This column may come across as slightly sexist.\u00a0 I\u2019m sorry for that, but it\u2019s a thread I\u2019ve been pulling that I\u2019m having a hard time getting out of my mind.\u00a0 You probably could apply this to other dynamics, but I\u2019ve not yet analyzed them to the point where I feel comfortable talking about them.\u00a0 I bow in the dust.<\/em><\/p>\n

FWB, Button and I got together this weekend.\u00a0 *chuckles* I need to see them more often, as it seems that a visit from them is sure to inspire a poly column.\u00a0 I suppose it\u2019s the cross germination of ideas.\u00a0 The Prince and I have been together[1]<\/a> for twenty years and have been poly the whole time, so it\u2019s not like polyamory is something we discuss or analyze as often as other subjects.<\/p>\n

FWB is pretty successful at \u201cgetting the ladies\u201d, if you want to look at it that way, and one of the men he knows was admiring this fact and wondering how he did it. No, it\u2019s not about movie star good looks, nor is it all being about Mr. Cool.<\/p>\n

FWB simply enjoys<\/em> the company of women. This is significantly different from liking getting laid[2]<\/a>.\u00a0 He enjoys the conversation, the hanging out, just enjoys interacting with women as people<\/em>.<\/p>\n

I know men, men that are as strictly heterosexual as FWB, that really don\u2019t like<\/em> hanging out with women all that much.\u00a0 Pussy?\u00a0 My God yes, they love that<\/em>.\u00a0 But to get it, it\u2019s almost as if they\u2019re diving into this strange and uncomfortable world that they tolerate to get a drug or something.\u00a0 Myself, I think it\u2019s a little tragic they\u2019re not sexually attracted to men.\u00a0 They\u2019d be happier.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve noticed this almost across the board.\u00a0 The men I\u2019ve known who are quite successful at multiple relationships with women are invariably\u00a0interested<\/em> in women in and out of bed.\u00a0 They tended to find the woman\u2019s mind as fascinating as her body.\u00a0 None of the men I am thinking of would fit the \u201cSensitive New Age Guy\u201d stereotype, either.\u00a0 They\u2019re all intelligent, dynamic, opinionated people.\u00a0 Some are courtly, others aren\u2019t.\u00a0 \u00a0Some are laid back, others have a bit of a temper.\u00a0 Some have really \u201calpha\u201d personalities, others don\u2019t.\u00a0 The one characteristic they seem to have in common is that simple enjoyment of female company.<\/p>\n

[1]<\/a> Through some crazy relationship ups and downs.
\n[2]<\/a> Nor is it mutually exclusive, mind.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

This column may come across as slightly sexist.\u00a0 I\u2019m sorry for that, but it\u2019s a thread I\u2019ve been pulling that I\u2019m having a hard time getting out of my mind.\u00a0 You probably could apply this to other dynamics, but I\u2019ve not yet analyzed them to the point where I feel comfortable talking about them.\u00a0 I…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-364","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-relationships"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/364","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=364"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/364\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=364"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=364"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=364"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}