{"id":422,"date":"2010-07-08T11:48:27","date_gmt":"2010-07-08T15:48:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/?p=422"},"modified":"2010-07-08T11:48:27","modified_gmt":"2010-07-08T15:48:27","slug":"youre-all-fucking-idiots","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/2010\/07\/08\/youre-all-fucking-idiots\/","title":{"rendered":"You’re All Fucking Idiots"},"content":{"rendered":"

About seven or eight years ago, I was unemployed over a summer.\u00a0 Well, not so much unemployed as I was looking for \u201cReal Jobs\u201d through a temp agency and being what\u2019s now<\/em> called Virtual Assistant[1]<\/a> intermittently, and cleaning \u00a0up the code on websites for clients.\u00a0 This left me time to kibbitz with my then-wife in OLQ\u2019s office, work on the PolyFamilies <\/a>site and noodle around on polyamory discussion groups.<\/p>\n

I forget off the top of my head exactly what sort of idiocy was going on at the time.\u00a0 Whatever it was, it was redundant even though I\u2019d not spent even a decade on polyamory forum.\u00a0 In a fit of frustration, I shouted, \u201cGoddammit, I\u2019m starting a column on PolyFamilies called, \u2018You\u2019re all fucking idiots!\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

The Goddess of Giggle didn\u2019t stop typing on what she was doing, but just asked, \u201cSo, when is your period due?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cSunday<\/em>, why?\u201d I snapped before I mentally switched gears.\u00a0 \u201cOkay, but even so, it\u2019d be a great<\/em> title for a column.\u201d<\/p>\n

The rest of OLQ really didn\u2019t agree with the idea of You\u2019re All Fucking Idiots as a title for a column.\u00a0 I suppose they thought it wouldn\u2019t scan or some such.\u00a0 But I never really let go of the idea.<\/p>\n

When I finally did launch a biweekly column, I called it The Polyamorous Misanthrope.\u00a0 It was a nod to a writer I both admire and am terrified of.\u00a0 Her name is Florence King, and she lives in my hometown of Fredericksburg, VA.\u00a0 She used to do a column for the National Review called The Misanthrope\u2019s Corner. Pistol?\u00a0 Yep, that lady is something else<\/em>.<\/p>\n

But in the spirit of the column title I hold in my heart, I want to reiterate that the Polyamorous Misanthrope is dedicated to the idea that you can be polyamorous, make good choices for your life and not let being poly mean you\u2019re cutting a swath of chaos and destruction into the world around you.\u00a0 Being \u201cin love\u201d is not<\/em> an excuse for being a jerk, you have no business sacrificing the care of your kids to NRE and you can live consciously and build the good life that you want with the people you choose to have in your life.<\/p>\n

Far too often, people do use being in love as an excuse for terrible behavior.\u00a0 What I\u2019d love to see is the polyamorous community setting an example to the world for what good relationships and conscious lives can look like.\u00a0 Many do, and you know what?<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not <\/strong>fucking idiots.\u00a0 You\u2019re awesome.\u00a0 Thank you.<\/p>\n

[1]<\/a> Back at the beginning of the century, I think it was still called desktop publishing or \u201cTyping and formatting documents out of your living room.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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