{"id":496,"date":"2011-02-10T15:52:04","date_gmt":"2011-02-10T20:52:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/?p=496"},"modified":"2011-02-10T15:52:04","modified_gmt":"2011-02-10T20:52:04","slug":"ask-the-misanthrope-can-a-lesbian-have-a-domsub-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/2011\/02\/10\/ask-the-misanthrope-can-a-lesbian-have-a-domsub-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Ask the Misanthrope: Can a Lesbian Have a Dom\/Sub Relationship?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A Reader Asks:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>I&#8217;ve found your site within the last few weeks and I have a question. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 4 years now, and am currently exploring a dom\/sub relationship with her.<\/p>\n<p>I do not exhibit this lifestyle in public as I am upper-level management in a public organization. But, with her in our home and specifically in our bedroom I am almost always the submissive. I love my lifestyle, but I was hoping to meet others in our area (southern Missouri) and see how they live.<\/p>\n<p>First question, is it possible to have a dominant\/submissive relationship with lesbians or have I lost my mind?<\/p>\n<p>Second question: Do you know of any clubs or organizations in our area?? Thanks for all your help!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>I actually laughed at the first question because it seemed a little strange to me. \u00a0Why <em>couldn&#8217;t<\/em> a lesbian be in a dom\/sub relationship if that&#8217;s what you and your partner want? \u00a0If you&#8217;re asking if you&#8217;re betraying feminist or egalitarian principles by your bedroom activities, you&#8217;re not. \u00a0Enjoy, though it sounds like you already are. *grin* As far as the sanity thing? \u00a0Sanity is overrated, anyway. \u00a0You do what works for you.<\/p>\n<p>For your second question about finding a BDSM club in your area, I didn&#8217;t know off the top of my head. \u00a0 I asked the <a href=\"http:\/\/groups.yahoo.com\/group\/polyfamilies\">PolyFamilies<\/a> group (a wonderful collective brain of Very Smart people) and was wisely told to check out <a href=\"http:\/\/fetlife.com\">Fetlife<\/a>. \u00a0You can often find local groups there.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A Reader Asks: I&#8217;ve found your site within the last few weeks and I have a question. I have been in a relationship with my partner for 4 years now, and am currently exploring a dom\/sub relationship with her. I do not exhibit this lifestyle in public as I am upper-level management in a public&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-496","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ask-the-misanthrope"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/496","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=496"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/496\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=496"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=496"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/polyamorousmisanthrope.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=496"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}