I talk a great deal about setting boundaries and expressing preferences, and sometimes have struggled to differentiate this between being controlling and giving orders.<\/p>\n
I was less than perfect about this this morning, and realized while the incident was trivial, the example was beautifully illustrative.\u00a0 As my sobriquet might suggest, I am fond of coffee.\u00a0 First thing I do every morning is downstairs and grab a cup of this sublime elixir.<\/p>\n
The Prince tends to be the one to set up the coffee pot the night before.\u00a0 We have a coffee maker with a timer, so most days the timer is set to go off when people expect to be getting up the next day.\u00a0 Waking to coffee is a wonderful thing.<\/p>\n
Usually.<\/p>\n
This morning, being a Saturday, we got up later, and yes coffee happened.\u00a0 The Prince was already improving his mind,[1]<\/a> so being a Dutiful Wife, I brought him a cup when I got my own.<\/p>\n I settled down to Important Business[2]<\/a> and enjoy my coffee when I took a sip and—<\/p>\n \u201cEwww.\u00a0 Honey is this flavored <\/em>coffee?\u201d says I in horrified tones.<\/p>\n Not catching my abject horror at the sacrilege to the purity of the libation, he said proudly, \u201cYeah, I put just a pinch<\/em> of the blueberry coffee in with the regular stuff.[3]<\/a>\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cFlavored coffee is why we have cup-top brewers,\u201d I sighed.<\/p>\n So, mah poly children, can you catch Mama Java\u2019s boundary-setting and preference-establishing mistake?\u00a0 \u2018Cause I made one.[4]<\/a><\/p>\n [1]<\/a> Actually, he was noodling on Reddit and reading Cracked pseudo-scientific articles, but let\u2019s not be small-minded.<\/p>\n [2]<\/a> Well, figuring out how to explain on a PolyFamilies thread why squirrels were really nasty, destructive tree-rats.<\/p>\n
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