I got quite a compliment many years ago from a member of the mailing list generated by the Polyfamilies site. Basically, the lady had never really intended to be a stay at home mom, or do the housewife thing. She found it too pedestrian and far too conformist and as a result, was having a…
Month: March 2007
Vetos
I wanna talk a bit about vetos. I don’t like ‘em – not one tiny little bit. I don’t like the ramifications of a veto. There is an implication of ownership overlaid with a serious lack of trust. No, don’t whine at me about this. If you need a veto, there is a desire to…
When You’re Home Alone
When you’re poly and partnered, sometimes the partner has a date, and for whatever reason you’re “stuck” home. How do you treat this time? Bitch, moan, put your hair in curlers and wear your granny housecoat?1 Don’t. Whether or not you are finding you might want to negotiate or renegotiate time agreements, now is not…
Embracing the Inner Hardass
Do you have Rules for Dating? If you don’t, you should. Yes, I know, “should” is bad and evil and I’m stomping all over boundaries to tell you that you should be doing anything. Feh. I suck, I know. Okay… You might find it helpful to write yourself a series of dating rules. (Better?) I…