A problem I’ve noticed in my own life, as well as lives of many other poly people is a lack of social support. I don’t mean that your mother doesn’t like and understand that you’re poly, though that is something of a symptom. What I mean is that the social context where people often expect…
Month: April 2007
H.A.L.T
I ran across the acronym H.A.L.T for a reminder in times of stress or distress on the Flylady mailing list. Basically, it runs like this. Self: I feel like crap. I’m ruminating. I’m upset, I hate the world (or myself, or whatever tends to be your danger signal for negative emotion). This can be a…
When to Say Yea!
I’ve gotten some pokes from various sources saying that I’ve posted a lot about what to run away from, and what to avoid, but what about turning it around? What do you say “yes” to? Mutual support of each others’ goals. It’s good to cheer on a partner’s accomplishments and it’s good to have your…
Decluttering Your Emotional Space
This week’s column is by guest writer, Jenny Ford. Forget those piles of paper, bulging closets, and kitchen cabinets full of lidless plastic containers. The real stressor in life is not physical clutter, it’s emotional clutter. Just as the physical clutter can be dealt with by a big one-off effort and a little daily maintenance,…
On the Nature of Love
The Western concept of romantic love is appalling and causes a lot of damage. There are days when I want to go back in time and kick Eleanor of Aquitaine’s ass. [1] Here are the ideas that I see are most common, and ideas I think are about as unproductive as can be. Love=Romantic Passion….