Mama Java’s been ranting about asking for what you want and explaining why it’s important to do so lately. Yeah, yeah, that’s all cool and groovy and evolved and shit. What if you don’t know what you want? Valid concern. People don’t know what they want sometimes. Or sometimes they realize what they thought they…
Month: June 2007
The Emotional Bank Account
I used the expression in my Vetos article about the Emotional Bank Account, and would like to explore the concept a little more in depth. The Emotional Bank Account is the level of trust you and your partner(s) have between each other. The higher the balance in the emotional bank account, the greater slack you’re…
I Shouldn’t Want That!
Quick quiz: When I ask for something I ask for What I think I should want. What I think I can get that is closest to what I want. What I want. I chose what I should want. Okay, sure, lots of people have done this. It’s not an unusual option when you feel guilty…
I’m okay, you suck
As is often the case, I had my cranky pants on during an Internet discussion and started ranting about how fringe groups often like to get self-congratulatory about what better people they are. This ain’t a polyamorous phenomenon, mind. As far as I can tell, it’s part of the Human Experience. It does drive me…