I’ve noticed some talk on the polyamory discussion boards talking about fundamentalist Mormon polygamy and how it makes the polyamory community look. Because polyamory is hardly on the general public radar, there is some concern that any non-monogamous relationship will be mentally lumped in with groups we might not admire. Well, true enough. I am…
Author: GoddessofJava
Polly Wally
I have a Serious Confession to make. There’s a video that’s been around for awhile called Polly Wally1. After several years, I finally managed to watch it all the way through. No, not because it’s bad. Quite the reverse. It’s so very good that I’d cringe like I was watching Fawlty Towers and have to…
Why OLQ Broke Up
Okay, how many of you suckers really, really think I’m going to do a post about that? What I am going to do is explain a bit about why there isn’t, nor will there ever be, a Misanthrope article analyzing OLQ’s breakup1. The first is merely the tacky factor. I have a strong distaste, shared…
A Blow-Job, a Cookie, and a Nap
“My idea is simple- everyone needs a blow job, a cookie, and a nap. If that happens, world peace will ensue.” — The Mad Pirate Bippy I like pithy statements, as they often illustrate principles. The Blow-job, cookie and nap (usually abbreviated to BCN) is often prescribed on the PolyFamilies discussion group when someone’s seeming…
Chore Wars
Keeping track of household chores a point of contention with you and your love(s)? Are you even slightly a geek? Do you have a sense of humor? Have I got something fun for you! Chore Wars. It’s a very customizable program by which you and your household can have a D&D style adventure revolving around……
The Brave Little Toaster
This week’s column is by guest writer Rainy Hannah A few years ago, while in the throes of a very bad breakup, I stopped participating in the larger polyamorous community. I unsubscribed from everything and spent the next year and a half on sabbatical from the poly community at large. I needed time to think…
What Can They Do to Me?
Okay, great! You’re poly! You’re cutting edge with the open lifestyle of the future. You have pictures of your loves in your cubicle and you wave that poly flag every chance you get. Then you get a pink slip. Was it your lifestyle? Not to put too fine a point on it, can they legally…
Election Day
Be yourself. It’s a dirty job, but somebody’s gotta do it! — attributed all over the damn’ place. I’ve been watching some of the debates about the merits of potential candidates for the Presidency of the United States with considerably less enthusiasm than usual. (Not that it was ever all that damn’ high. I’m a…
What They Don’t Tell You About STDs and Non-Monogamy
This week’s column is by guest writer, Jenny Ford. So you’ve researched the risk profile of all your favorite sexual activities and set your preferred standards for safer sex. Do you think you are now protected from the sexually-transmitted pestilence to which your immoral lifestyle exposes you? Think again. This is a true story….
Meaningless Sex
Sex is only meaningful when you’re into having a long-term, committed relationship, right? It’s what polyamory is about, right? Committed relationships. We frown on people who “just have sex”. That, my dears, is so much horse elbows. First of all, there’s no such thing as “just sex”. That’s a lie adulterers try to tell to…