Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050430.html I want to thank a recent reader of the PolyFamilies site for the idea for this column. I’ve been a bit blocked for a month or so, trying to come up with something good to write, and this was an excellent topic! Every now and then I get letters from people…
Author: GoddessofJava
So, You Wanna Be Poly
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050319.html So, what if you’re already in a relationship and want to convince a spouse/partner to try polyamory? As I have stated before, I am not particularly sympathetic to cheating . I frequently have conversations with people who say that they have this compelling need to love more than one person, but…
But What About the Children?
Originally posted on http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050305.html This is the talk I had written for the Poly Living Conference in the Wyndam Franklin Plaza in Philadelphia, PA on February 20, 2005. If you attended the talk, you’ll notice that this does not match up exactly. It turned into something of a question/answer discussion quite early. Still, most points…
Be an Example
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050219.html “Well, no, I don’t think it is a good idea if my children know I am poly!” Mama Java, she read a line similar to this on her lunch break. Her office is outside a corridor that is mostly marble and concrete, so her exclamation of “What the fuck?” echoed quite…
Just Swinging
Originally published on http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050205.html Yet again, Mama Java, she’s had it up to her eyeballs! I’m tired of seeing this: Well, Mr. I’m Searching for a Hot Bi Babe, that’s nice you want to get laid and all, but we’re about polyamory. What you’re talking about is just swinging! What the hell is it with…
Heartbreak
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050122.html I am desperately worried for the poly community. We’re supposed to be this group of people dedicated to love. And yet — I see more pain, heartache, broken dreams, cruelty and what have you going on in the poly community. It’s drama, miscommunication, expectations… I’ve mentioned this, with a certain level…
Who’s Your Primary?
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050108.html Quick, name your primary! Did you name your spouse? A live-in lover? Someone you don’t live with that you are deeply in love with? What about yourself? No, I’m dead serious. You are the only person that you’re sure as shit to live with the rest of your life. Anything else…
The Holiday Spirit
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041225.html Well, honestly? I think a lot of people who complain about not having any holiday spirit do so because they don’t feel that they’re festive enough, rather than accepting whatever level of festiveness they happen to feel at the moment. I mean, you’re not going to feel wonderful just because it…
Balance
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041211.html “Don’t do anything by half. If you love someone, love them with all your soul. When you go to work, work your ass off. When you hate someone, hate them until it hurts.” –– Henry Rollins Moderation is not and never has been my best friend. I like it hot…
How About A Sense of Proportion
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041127.html “Honey, I’ve just been tested and I found out I have a curable STD. You should go to the doctor’s office and get yourself checked out.” Quick, what’s your reaction? If it is not something along the lines of, “Auugggh cooties, leprosy, howcouldyouDOthistome!?!”, you’re in the minority. There’s a stigma attached…