Jessica Burde, polyamorous writer, has released a nice little book on polyamory and pregnancy. This is a good, clearly-written guide to considering pregnancy, contraception and the baby talks within a polyamorous relationship. I especially like its practicality and the way that it does not encourage wishful thinking. Babies and parenting are a big deal…
Category: Guest Column
Jurassic Park Secondary
This week’s column is a guest column by Jessica Burde. Ladies, gentlemen and assorted gender identities, today I would like to address one very important point of natural law. Where there is PIV sex, there will be pregnancies. Period, dot, underline, hell I should probably just go and put it in all caps. But I…
Unbundling
Guest column by Vrimj today! Suggestion for Married Couples moving from monogamy to polyamory: Unbundle. A lot of the newbie mistakes that hurt everyone in the poly world come from married couples who consider themselves a package deal, in part because they consider themselves a package. When businesses try to sell me bundled services, say…
On Gaslighting
This guest column was written by Peter J. Vinton, Jr., aka The Prince. It’s Just A Trifle Lily innocuously asks a favor of you one day. Say, a quick phone call asking you to pick up her friend Orlando in front of the hardware store, and then to drop him off at the grocery store,…
Patient Griselda, or, Minding the Gap
Mama Java is lounging on the beach right now. Well, okay RIGHT NOW, I’m probably getting sunscreen on squirming little children, collecting beach chairs and making sure everyone has their towels, but I am at the beach this week. Here’s a column from Rain Hannah. Enjoy! It can be easy, when you’ve been doing this…
Tips To Couples Looking to Add an Additional Person Into Their Relationship
This column is written by guest author Holly Bernabe. She wrote it to try to help people posting sex or relationship ads to polyamorous discussion list why the list reaction tended to be less than stellar, and to help them be successful in finding the relationships they wanted. I received your email/ad on my group…
Perspective: Grab Some — it’s FREE!
This guest column is by Edward Martin, III This is something I don’t understand. If I say “There’s no such thing as a white pigeon” and someone shows me a white pigeon, I have to admit I’m wrong, right? I mean, there’s the pigeon. It’s white. And there’s no harm in BEING wrong, near as…
The Care and Feeding of Unicorns
Mama Java is off visiting, so Cinema Babe has generously consented to fill in with this column. It All Begins With A Personal Ad “Hi, we’re Dot and Jim, a friendly, stable, professional couple who would like to meet a vivacious, unattached bi woman. Dot is 36 and bi, Jim is 43 and straight and…
I Have Something to Tell You
This week’s column is a guest piece by Edward Martin, III. How do I “break the news” I’m poly? This question rolls around a lot, especially on boards and meetings where there’s a lot of new folks, or folks that have just started dating, or aliens that have only recently arrived on Earth and haven’t…
Enemies and Allies
This guest column was written by Edward Martin, III. A lot of people seem to have a lot of trouble talking with their partners. Now, sometimes, I can understand this. Some topics are embarrassing, or awkward or uncomfortable. Some topics are even potentially dangerous to the relationship. So, yeah, talking with partners can be tricky….