When you’re poly and partnered, sometimes the partner has a date, and for whatever reason you’re “stuck” home. How do you treat this time? Bitch, moan, put your hair in curlers and wear your granny housecoat?1 Don’t. Whether or not you are finding you might want to negotiate or renegotiate time agreements, now is not…
Category: Love
Help! Someone I Love is Poly!
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050430.html I want to thank a recent reader of the PolyFamilies site for the idea for this column. I’ve been a bit blocked for a month or so, trying to come up with something good to write, and this was an excellent topic! Every now and then I get letters from people…
Heartbreak
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050122.html I am desperately worried for the poly community. We’re supposed to be this group of people dedicated to love. And yet — I see more pain, heartache, broken dreams, cruelty and what have you going on in the poly community. It’s drama, miscommunication, expectations… I’ve mentioned this, with a certain level…
Who’s Your Primary?
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050108.html Quick, name your primary! Did you name your spouse? A live-in lover? Someone you don’t live with that you are deeply in love with? What about yourself? No, I’m dead serious. You are the only person that you’re sure as shit to live with the rest of your life. Anything else…
Choice
Originally posted at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041023.html I’ve run across a few items in discussion lists lately where people who are experimenting with polyamory have been bemoaning the fact that they can’t “get with the program”, or that they can’t get rid of jealousy, resentment or what have you. Now, I will be the first to tell someone…
If It Ain’t About Love
Originally posted on http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope200400815.html Peeve time, and this is a big one. I get sucked into drama really easily. I’m an intense person and all the gods know that I am a sucker for almost any type of intensity – good and bad. A personal Poly Drama got me talking to one of my spice…
It’s the Little Things
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040814.html If you’re poly, one of the things you sometimes deal with is doing what you can to help people feel comfortable in multiple relationships. Sometimes, one person or another feels insecure… It happens, and doesn’t have to be a huge hairy deal. One of the things that can help is the…