One of the biggest challenges in a polyamorous person’s life is how to balance good parenting with multiple relationships. As you often hear, “Love is limitless; time is not.” But more than that, how do you handle the concept of being polyamorous in a monogamous world, and how does that mesh or clash with being…
Category: Parenting
Will a Baby Change my Polyamorous Relationship?
Okay, go read the title. Then think a minute. Damn right one of your partners having a baby is going to change things. Jesus, where’s your brain? Reams of paper go out with printed whinging about fathers who feel jealous of the attention their wives give their new babies. It’s something even monogamous people have…
Poly Parenting 101
One of the sad facts of being an alternative lifestyler of any sort is in this political climate, you’re liable to be labeled a dangerous pervert. For the most part, it’s not actually illegal to be a pervert or anything, as long as you never have interaction with kids. Well, if you’re poly and a…
Experience and Variety in Poly Parenting
Even though I’m not a parent in a group marriage any more, I still co-parent with my ex-spice. On a trip to visit my family in Virginia, I was discussing child-rearing with my own parents and we were talking about the different experiences my kids had[1] as a result of being reared by four people….
Ducks in a Row
Poly people out there, do you have your legal ducks in a row? Most of these things are legal documents that anyone, poly or not, should have in order. Thing is, because polyamorous situations can muddy legal waters, it’s important to have your wishes clear. Not all of the documents will apply to all poly…
But What About the Children?
Originally posted on http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050305.html This is the talk I had written for the Poly Living Conference in the Wyndam Franklin Plaza in Philadelphia, PA on February 20, 2005. If you attended the talk, you’ll notice that this does not match up exactly. It turned into something of a question/answer discussion quite early. Still, most points…
Be an Example
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050219.html “Well, no, I don’t think it is a good idea if my children know I am poly!” Mama Java, she read a line similar to this on her lunch break. Her office is outside a corridor that is mostly marble and concrete, so her exclamation of “What the fuck?” echoed quite…
Poly Parenting
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040731.html It is often asserted in the poly community that the poly household is the ideal household in which to rear a child. I rather dislike the assertion. It is my strong opinion that the ideal child-rearing situation has less to do with the form of the family and considerably more to…