Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041113.html Mama Java, she said that if one more person wrote her bragged about getting a score of ten on the Group Marriage Quiz , she was gonna rant about it in her column. Well, one more person did, darn it. No, I’m not going to rip anyone apart with sarcasm. Well,…
Category: relationships
God, It Sucks to be Poly!
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041030.html I remember one night, after Atlas was published, she [Ayn Rand] was sitting on the sofa, crying, protesting the state of the world and her place in it, and then she said how much she would hate for John Galt to see her this way, how much she would hate for…
Choice
Originally posted at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041023.html I’ve run across a few items in discussion lists lately where people who are experimenting with polyamory have been bemoaning the fact that they can’t “get with the program”, or that they can’t get rid of jealousy, resentment or what have you. Now, I will be the first to tell someone…
The Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell Relationship
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040828.html “My wife is cool with me getting involved with you, she just doesn’t want to know about it.” Let’s assume that the person in question here is telling the flat out truth – that he has negotiated that muddy line of polyamory, the Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell relationship. So, is the DADT…
It’s the Little Things
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040814.html If you’re poly, one of the things you sometimes deal with is doing what you can to help people feel comfortable in multiple relationships. Sometimes, one person or another feels insecure… It happens, and doesn’t have to be a huge hairy deal. One of the things that can help is the…
The Dammit Phenomenon
Originally posted on http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040619.html NRE is a term that was invented, I believe, by someone in the San Francisco Bay area polyamory community to describe that “newly in love” feeling in a way that did not imply “one true love”. NRE stands for New Relationship Energy. You know the feeling — you’re light as a…