This time, I’d like to hear from anyone that wants to sound off on the subject. I see the phrase “Love has no boundaries” frequently. Frankly, I do have a reaction to that (which if you read this much, you’d probably guess). But I want anyone who wants to tell me to let me know…
We’ve Done It, Now Let Me Fix Your Life
There’s a popular situation in sitcoms and romantic comedies. There’ll be this couple — one of them[1] being presented as having their life a bit out of order. The couple sleeps together, and then the more together partner starts getting the other person’s life in order for them. I’ve never been too happy with this…
Tips To Couples Looking to Add an Additional Person Into Their Relationship
This column is written by guest author Holly Bernabe. She wrote it to try to help people posting sex or relationship ads to polyamorous discussion list why the list reaction tended to be less than stellar, and to help them be successful in finding the relationships they wanted. I received your email/ad on my group…
Poly Parenting 101
One of the sad facts of being an alternative lifestyler of any sort is in this political climate, you’re liable to be labeled a dangerous pervert. For the most part, it’s not actually illegal to be a pervert or anything, as long as you never have interaction with kids. Well, if you’re poly and a…
How to Score with Women
This column may come across as slightly sexist. I’m sorry for that, but it’s a thread I’ve been pulling that I’m having a hard time getting out of my mind. You probably could apply this to other dynamics, but I’ve not yet analyzed them to the point where I feel comfortable talking about them. I…
Repost: The Holiday Spirit
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041225.html Well, honestly? I think a lot of people who complain about not having any holiday spirit do so because they don’t feel that they’re festive enough, rather than accepting whatever level of festiveness they happen to feel at the moment. I mean, you’re not going to feel wonderful just because it…
Coming Out for the Holidays
The holiday season is fast approaching and many people often wonder how to handle alternative lifestyles such as polyamory and holidays. I’d like to offer a list of Useful Tips that will help with the Cool Kids/Backward Family interface. If you’re thinking of coming out at a family gathering…. DON’T. Good grief, have a…
Ten Tips to Great Poly Relationships
This is my top ten things you can do for great multiple relationships. 1. Don’t try to be a “good” poly person. If you’ve been reading online material a lot, you may have developed an idea of what a good polyamorous person should be doing, and you may be trying to tie yourself into knots…
Universal Principles
The Polyamorous Misanthrope was supposed to be a weekly column. It was for awhile and then I started drying up for topics. Why? Well, as I study polyamory, I see more and more that the advice I give, the lessons I’ve learned and the observations I make are less about having good multiple relationships and…
Ask the Misanthrope: Careful with that Axe, Eugene
I am married (7 years), with boyfriend (year and a half), who also has another girlfriend (a few months). They are having trouble getting along; it seems to be a matter of different needs for affection, coupled with poor communication. I have heard only his side, I see how they interact and there is definitely…