Polyamory is about love and intimacy, right? So poly people are the lovingest, mostest intimate cuddlemuffins out there. If you find someone wants to keep the slightest bit of themselves to themselves, they’re not really poly. People that need space cannot possibly be polyamorous. They’re sneaky monsters with an agenda to torture the poor loving…
Respectful Communication and Mind-Reading
Not too long ago, I was in the living room working idly on some material. The Prince was in his room on a teleconference with a client. Our son was wandering through the house as he often does, waving a blue-painted wooden sword and speaking dialog that will be turned into his latest movie. He…
Perspective: Grab Some — it’s FREE!
This guest column is by Edward Martin, III This is something I don’t understand. If I say “There’s no such thing as a white pigeon” and someone shows me a white pigeon, I have to admit I’m wrong, right? I mean, there’s the pigeon. It’s white. And there’s no harm in BEING wrong, near as…
Ask the Misanthrope: Secondary Rights
I’d like to see a column on “secondary” relationships and/or on the concept of how setting boundaries in a multi-adult relationship works in a relationship that actually works. The quotes there on secondary are because I know the whole concept of hierarchical relationships is a hot topic, but in this case I specifically mean something…
Wishful Thinking Doesn’t Work
I don’t usually rant at monogamous people. Polyamorous people in general provide more than enough rant fodder and idiocy to be going on with. But a couple of incidents have bubbled across my brain in the last few months that I just don’t wanna keep quiet. My monogamous bretheren… If you wind up on a…
Prove Me Wrong
I recently made the assertion in my infinite wisdom and exquisitely refined good taste that in general, poly poetry is Vogon poetry. So, here’s your chance to prove me wrong. Write a poly poem that’s actually good and post it here. I’ll tell you whether I think it’s Vogon Poetry or not. I really will,…
When It’s Working
I know I haven’t been updating much. There are several reasons for this. The biggest is that one can only say, “Don’t be a fucking idiot” in so many ways before the message begin to get a little monotonous. The other is that I’ve been leading a life so devoid of drama that I’m not…
No Means No
Hail, O Caffeinated one! Dear Goddess – here’s my situation: My husband and I have been together for four years, and married for two. He knew I was poly from the get-go, and while he has never yet expressed an interest in another woman, I’m obviously not opposed to the idea. ‘Tain’t as obvious as…
The Mistress Paradigm
Dear Goddess: I have a couple of questions about navigating my poly relationship and I’d love your advice. First, a bit of background. My husband and I began a polyrelationship with one of my best friends about 6 months ago. Working out my jealousy has been truly difficult, but also rewarding since I continue to…
Ask the Misanthrope: How to Meet People
I have a question for you and I’ll give you a bit of a background on my history with poly in order to help you understand my quandry. After about 8 or 9 years of marriage my wife met a poly couple, realized she was poly and fell in love with the husband. I have…