Okay, I’ve had it with the whole boilin’ of you nutcases!
What in the hell is wrong with you that you’re okay with treating other human beings as need fulfillment objects? A good seventy percent of the letters I get aren’t about how to handle a person to person relationship, but how to get another human being to be more compliant or convenient at need fulfillment.
For pity’s sake, stoppit!
If you’re not up for having a human to human relationship, you’ve got problems and, honey, it has zero to do with polyamory.
Join the damn human race before you decide you want a relationship – and ya know what? This applies across the board. I don’t give a damn if you’re monogamous or what. Treat people as humans, not objects to satisfy you.
If you need a promise of a payoff, I can promise you that your relationships will be better and any needs you have will be better fulfilled. Do it for your own self-interest if you can’t suck it up and, you know, act like a living, thinking person.
(And yeah, I think I need to get me a damn cup of coffee!)