If I see one more person act like being poly is a journey of self-discovery (as if that’s what makes poly valuable) I may vomit — Or at least make myself a stiff martini as anesthesia.
That martini becomes a double if it sneers at monogamous people for not doing it. No, better yet, go find a monastery, any religion you choose, and tell them that because they’re not poly no-one there is on a journey of self discovery. Though, monks and nuns, generally being more spiritual and evolved than I am, would probably just smile and say, “Is that so?” and go back to adding to the calluses and meditating on other things.
If life isn’t a journey of discovery for you, you’re missing the point, I don’t give a damn what you’re doing with the slippery bits.
Polyamory is not better than monogamy. It’s just different. It’s a taste, and it’s a taste that in a sane would would be no more significant than a preference for Coke or Pepsi. Poly people aren’t better or stronger or nicer or more loving.
We’re just people, for heaven’s sake.
13 thoughts on “Journey of Self-Discovery”
I could kiss you for saying this.
“If life isn’t a journey of discovery for you, you’re missing the point”
I think that line says all that needs to be said.
amen to that!
I understand what you are saying and agree it’s all a life journey. However, I think what people are really getting at when they say its about self discovery is that it’s a part of their identity construction. People in the majority don’t need to think about the things they do in terms of identity construction while others who aren’t have to define themselves in terms of the majority. It’s no different than race or sexual orientation. In the study of each you learn that there is a phase people go through where they immerse themselves in their culture/heritage or beliefs and for some that means a sense of cultural pride for others its a time where they might think they are better then everyone else. It can be annoying for some, but when you think about it in the broader context you can understand they are just trying to come to terms with who they are.
Very to the point !
“Polyamory is not better than monogamy. It’s just different. It’s a taste, and it’s a taste that in a sane would would be no more significant than a preference for Coke or Pepsi.”
Great laugh for a Sunday Morning!
I sing along with ya – life is a journey of self-discovery – whether you like it or not! Whether you admit it and realize it or not.
“Polyamory is not better than monogamy” Yes life is a journey.My journey started 2 years .I try to take one day at a time. Thank you!
Heh. Nice points.
Hubby, however just pointed out that all the psycho women in his life have preferred pepsi. I am a coke drinker, as is he…and our gf, and my bf…
Nothing serious here, move along, we’re a hedge!
Thank you. I get very tired of “minority viewpoint uppitiness” paticually when expressed in a froum of people who explictly share the minortiy view. This is just about in-group reinforcement and not about the kind of thoughful decisionmaking that I value. Monogamy is a wonderful and valid choice for many people. I hope that one day we can all love as we will without feeling special for it.
But poly *is* a journey of self discovery!
Now can I get you to come over here and have a few drinks? 😀
But, sugar, you don’t have to annoy me for me to want to tipple with ya!
I completely agree, all of *life* is about self-discovery.
For some, celibacy is a part of that discovery, for others poly is. Nobody has a right to tell anyone their life is any more or less valid, or that their discoveries aren’t important because of the nature of their relationships.