Many moons ago, I ran across a term that just tickled the hell out of me, both for its succinctness and its applicability to many polyamorous situations. I wish I’d come up with it, because it’s just that good.
It’s called the One Penis Policy, and it tends to run something like this:
Male: Hey, I was thinking about maybe you and I opening up our relationship and being non-monogamous. You’d mentioned you thought Miss Brainy was pretty hot, didn’t you?
Female: Yep, she is. And I think maybe having a more open relationship would be really cool. Miss Brainy is hot, but I’ve kind of had my eye on Mr. Genius, too.
Male: No, I don’t think that would work. I mean, you’re bi, and I’m interested in women, so it’s fair that we can both have a girlfriend if we want.
While it’s certainly okay not to want a million relationships and maybe your dance card is full at two, and it just happens to occur that there’s only one penis going around, making it a rule is obnoxious and pretty damned sexist.
To put it bluntly, why is it the woman’s responsibility to face culturally-programmed insecurities and not the man’s?
 If you don’t think brainy people are hot, you and I just don’t share similar tastes. Insert whatever adjective suits your fancy.
 Guys, if this is your situation and you’re proud of being so much of a man your woman doesn’t want any more men, don’t be too damn proud of yourself. You may be implementing a stealth One Penis Policy without realizing it.