This was an ask on my Tumblr, but I just had to repost it.
Hi there! I have a bit of a dilemma at the moment. I’m in a long term poly relationship (together 6 years, poly for 1.5) I’ve recently found myself very attracted to a professor at my school- I’m 21, he’s 30. The attraction seems to be very mutual in that there is chemistry and some flirting, but never anything inappropriate. But, he’s married. I have never been with anyone that much older than me, much less had experience asking a person in an assumed mono relationship if they are poly. Help?
You bet I have some advice.
Don’t be a fucking idiot.
A) He’s a professor, for pity’s sake. Even if he is not YOUR professor, that’s a bit of an ethics violation.
B) You have no reason in the world to believe he’s poly.
There’s literally millions of suitable men in the world that would be great for you. Pass this one by.
* Rule One is “Don’t be a fucking idiot.”