Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041113.html Mama Java, she said that if one more person wrote her bragged about getting a score of ten on the Group Marriage Quiz , she was gonna rant about it in her column. Well, one more person did, darn it. No, I’m not going to rip anyone apart with sarcasm. Well,…
Author: GoddessofJava
God, It Sucks to be Poly!
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041030.html I remember one night, after Atlas was published, she [Ayn Rand] was sitting on the sofa, crying, protesting the state of the world and her place in it, and then she said how much she would hate for John Galt to see her this way, how much she would hate for…
Choice
Originally posted at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041023.html I’ve run across a few items in discussion lists lately where people who are experimenting with polyamory have been bemoaning the fact that they can’t “get with the program”, or that they can’t get rid of jealousy, resentment or what have you. Now, I will be the first to tell someone…
A Public Service Announcement
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041009.html Gather ye round little poly chillun, ’cause Mama Java has about had it up to her eyeballs wit da nonsense. Polyamory is not about: Nudism Tantra Religion Heinlein Politics Let’s start with nudism. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I understand that a lot of people who are really hard core nudists/naturists feel…
Snarkiness, Messages and Education
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040925.html In an attempt to Do My Duty to the Polyamorous Community, I requested of the faithful and passionately interested readers of my blog to help me out with something to rant about. (Translation: Mama Java has been boring her readership to tears whining about her lack of interesting subject matter for…
The Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell Relationship
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040828.html “My wife is cool with me getting involved with you, she just doesn’t want to know about it.” Let’s assume that the person in question here is telling the flat out truth – that he has negotiated that muddy line of polyamory, the Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell relationship. So, is the DADT…
If It Ain’t About Love
Originally posted on http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope200400815.html Peeve time, and this is a big one. I get sucked into drama really easily. I’m an intense person and all the gods know that I am a sucker for almost any type of intensity – good and bad. A personal Poly Drama got me talking to one of my spice…
It’s the Little Things
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040814.html If you’re poly, one of the things you sometimes deal with is doing what you can to help people feel comfortable in multiple relationships. Sometimes, one person or another feels insecure… It happens, and doesn’t have to be a huge hairy deal. One of the things that can help is the…
Poly Parenting
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040731.html It is often asserted in the poly community that the poly household is the ideal household in which to rear a child. I rather dislike the assertion. It is my strong opinion that the ideal child-rearing situation has less to do with the form of the family and considerably more to…
Wanna Be Like You
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040703.html Many people in various alternative lifestyle communities (my own writings leap to mind) like to go to some lengths to try to explain that we really are “Just Like You”. Domesticity is often discussed — the activities of dinner around the dining room table, the taking out of trash, the fact…