Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050430.html I want to thank a recent reader of the PolyFamilies site for the idea for this column. I’ve been a bit blocked for a month or so, trying to come up with something good to write, and this was an excellent topic! Every now and then I get letters from people…
Category: Communication
So, You Wanna Be Poly
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20050319.html So, what if you’re already in a relationship and want to convince a spouse/partner to try polyamory? As I have stated before, I am not particularly sympathetic to cheating . I frequently have conversations with people who say that they have this compelling need to love more than one person, but…
Cluebat!
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041113.html Mama Java, she said that if one more person wrote her bragged about getting a score of ten on the Group Marriage Quiz , she was gonna rant about it in her column. Well, one more person did, darn it. No, I’m not going to rip anyone apart with sarcasm. Well,…
Choice
Originally posted at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20041023.html I’ve run across a few items in discussion lists lately where people who are experimenting with polyamory have been bemoaning the fact that they can’t “get with the program”, or that they can’t get rid of jealousy, resentment or what have you. Now, I will be the first to tell someone…
Snarkiness, Messages and Education
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040925.html In an attempt to Do My Duty to the Polyamorous Community, I requested of the faithful and passionately interested readers of my blog to help me out with something to rant about. (Translation: Mama Java has been boring her readership to tears whining about her lack of interesting subject matter for…
The Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell Relationship
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040828.html “My wife is cool with me getting involved with you, she just doesn’t want to know about it.” Let’s assume that the person in question here is telling the flat out truth – that he has negotiated that muddy line of polyamory, the Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell relationship. So, is the DADT…
It’s the Little Things
Originally published at http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope20040814.html If you’re poly, one of the things you sometimes deal with is doing what you can to help people feel comfortable in multiple relationships. Sometimes, one person or another feels insecure… It happens, and doesn’t have to be a huge hairy deal. One of the things that can help is the…
The Poly Negotiator
Originally posted on http://www.polyfamilies.com/misanthrope200405.html In my interactions with the online poly community, one of the phrases I often hear is, “Oh it would be selfish of me to ask for X. I can’t do that !” My first reaction is often an eyeroll. My own philosophy is such that I do not consider…