I got a letter recently from a person in a polyamorous relationship who had lost a partner. Due to financial considerations, the relationship was closeted. This is probably one of the biggest reasons I want to see polyamory as an open and accepted relationship form without repercussions. There’s not much more tragic than losing a…
Category: Love
NRE for Everyone!
You’re in a happy triad. You and your partners do date from time to time, but for the most part, you have a stable, well-run home. Your routine is down pat. You all know your roles in the home and relationship, calendars get updated properly and everything is moving along as smoothly as a bullet…
Not at All Costs: there are times when you can keep working on the relationship
I’ve posted a series of columns lately where there is a gentle (or not so gentle) encouragement to get the hell out of a relationship. I bet you think this means that if there’s the slightest problem, I think you oughta just cut and run, don’t you? People who know me well enough to know…
Just Testing a Feature, Move Along
Playing with blog settings and testing a feature. But, to give it poly-relevant content: It’s about love. Really, no kidding. If you’re having a problem with your partner(s), all of you need to check Rule One again. Rock on.
When Does it Stop Hurting
I’ve just met a really great guy. We’ve been dating for about a few months now, and every day, I fall more for him in little ways. I know I should just assume this is the honeymoon phase, but it feels a little different than that. Intangible. He is polyamorous, and has been with his…
Keeping it Real
I’ve been slow in answering letters lately. I’ve got lots of material for lots of columns and I’m noticing a pattern. Lack of love. So much of the advice I give is crap unless you proceed from the assumption that all partners love each other. And cupcake, I ain’t talkin’ here about hormonal carbonation, nor…
Where’s the Love?
I have a fundamental flaw that is of course so embedded in my personality, that I cannot recognize it. Maybe you can help. I fall in love with plain, vanilla women for about a year, sometimes less sometimes much longer. At the end, I find myself searching for someone who is as un-vanilla as I…
Can a Polyamorous Marriage Last?
Today, my husband and I have been married twenty years. Now, unlike a lot of married couples, we never were monogamous. It’s part of the reason why I choke when people ask how to transition from a monogamous relationship to a poly one. Buggered if I know a thing about it. So, things should have…
Comparing? Maybe It Doesn’t Help
That was the best sex/meal/evening I ever had! Ever said anything like that? Ever said anything like that to a lover what wasn’t included in on said activity? What kind of reaction did you get? Maybe none. Maybe one that wasn’t so nice. For any human being that ever has the slightest bit of insecurity…
Preachin’ to the Choir
In an unusual and unscheduled post, I’d encourage people to check this out. It’s quite eloquent. If it ain’t about love… If you’re having a hard time with the video, the text is here.