I’m on vacation, so damn’f I’m writin’ something important! Ask me a question, either here or via email, and if it entertains, horrifies or piques my interest, I might write about it/snark it/answer it with all the sober seriousness in my power. Caveat Emptor and all that snot. See y’all next week. Be good, play…
Category: The Polyamory Community
Join the Dust of the World
Sure, you can fly, but that cocoon has gotta go! When we’re newly poly, especially if we’re fortunate enough to have found a poly community in which to participate, it is not unusual to dive into this new community with joy and excitement. Naw, I’m not gonna knock that. Joy and excitement are good things….
A Tacit Interview with Franklin Veaux
Franklin Veaux is a long-time polyamory writer and commentator. He’s still working on a book about polyamory. I encourage you to poke him to finish the damn thing! I wanna promote it here, dammit. First things first: Basic stats. Who are you *grin*, what got you into polyamory and how long have you been poly?…
PolyWorks Fund Logo Contest
The PolyWorks Fund Charity is really taking shape and we’re in the process of starting the site now. We know that the polyamory community is full of talented, creative people and so, we’re going to ask for a little help and ask for a logo donation. We need an original logo for the org that…
Online Support
A lot of poly people turn to online groups for support in their poly lives. As one of the co-founders of one such group, do I think they’re a good thing? Of course! Thing is, it’s a good idea to understand the limits of what an online support group is good for and what it’s…
How to Be an Activist
An article has zipped around the polyamory community in the past week. An advice columnist answered a letter from a polyamorous reader. A lot of people didn’t like the answer the columnist gave. No, I’m not going to sound off about it. What I want to do today is talk a bit about my own…
Doing Well by Doing Good
I often get what appears to be a wild hare across my butt to encourage crazy things to happen. In reality, I think about things for several months or years and then bring them up when the time looks right to me. This past week has been one of those times, and we’re getting ready…
Dependent/Independent/Interdependent
Community is important. (Yeah, yeah, I know, big shock that I’d say that. Stop pretending to have a heart attack). I’ve been preaching boundaries and acceptable behavior for many months here, and the reason I do it is because community is important and you cannot have a good relationship without interdependence. Thing is, you won’t…
Polyamory, FLDS and Cults
I’ve noticed some talk on the polyamory discussion boards talking about fundamentalist Mormon polygamy and how it makes the polyamory community look. Because polyamory is hardly on the general public radar, there is some concern that any non-monogamous relationship will be mentally lumped in with groups we might not admire. Well, true enough. I am…
Polly Wally
I have a Serious Confession to make. There’s a video that’s been around for awhile called Polly Wally1. After several years, I finally managed to watch it all the way through. No, not because it’s bad. Quite the reverse. It’s so very good that I’d cringe like I was watching Fawlty Towers and have to…