That was the best sex/meal/evening I ever had! Ever said anything like that? Ever said anything like that to a lover what wasn’t included in on said activity? What kind of reaction did you get? Maybe none. Maybe one that wasn’t so nice. For any human being that ever has the slightest bit of insecurity…
Author: GoddessofJava
Preachin’ to the Choir
In an unusual and unscheduled post, I’d encourage people to check this out. It’s quite eloquent. If it ain’t about love… If you’re having a hard time with the video, the text is here.
How Do I Seduce Someone?
Dear Goddess of Java, My husband and I have a wonderful marriage of nine years. I am bi-sexual and he is very supportive of this. We have always talked about our desire to have a long-term polyamorous relationship, but until recently we couldn’t seem to find the right woman. Now we believe that we have….
Am I Ready for Polyamory?
Have you been considering polyamory? Wondering where you want to go with your relationships? Do you wonder if you’re really ready to take the leap? If you’re wondering, that’s good. It means you’re thinking. Mama Java approves of thinking about things clearly. When you get to thinking, you’ll need to start asking yourself some searching…
Ask the Misanthrope: Changing Communication
I am coming out of 8 years of self imposed singleness, introspection and evolution. yeah yeah, had the heart broken like us all, but I am alive and happy now and ready to love again. I met an exceptional woman in May, she is poly, very open and honest, we like each other and I…
How to be Poly-Friendly
This guest column is by Pepper Mint. How can a monogamous person be poly-friendly? I originally encountered this question in a livejournal conversation, and followed up with a quick brainstormed list. The following list is a rewrite that expands on a number of points and incorporates the comments from the livejournal community. Please read this…
Personal Ad Translation Service
Personal ads tend to have their own code. You won’t realize exactly what the person is really expressing until you get involved with them. So here I am, in my infinite generosity, to explain a little about this and decode some of the more common phrases found in ads looking for relationships. I have a…
Bread Upon Waters
We complain all the time about the Internet driving us apart, making us more distant from each other. We talk about Internet friendships not being so “real”. I want to tell you about a friendship that I have. It’s totally online. I’ve never met this person in real life at all. But when I was…
Ask the Misanthrope: Telling the Truth
My wife and I have been looking for a long time to find a person or couple we could date. Not too long ago, we did start going out with a couple. The problem is, while I like them, I don’t like them in *that* way. What do I do? My wife is really excited…
Don’t Let the Dishes Get Crusty
“Honey, we’ve got to talk.” Do you hear this phrase often enough to make your blood run cold? Do most of your relationship talks start this way? Does this usually preface a several-hour discussion? If your relationships’ communication styles rely on a series of “Come to Jesus” chats, you’re not really communicating. Someone’s lecturing and…