I stumbled across your blog while searching for resources on polyamory and STDs. Another question that someone asked was like what happened to me and encouraged me to talk to someone. My wife and I have been together for a little over five years and just about two months ago we decided to pursue Polyamory….
Author: GoddessofJava
When Does it Stop Hurting
I’ve just met a really great guy. We’ve been dating for about a few months now, and every day, I fall more for him in little ways. I know I should just assume this is the honeymoon phase, but it feels a little different than that. Intangible. He is polyamorous, and has been with his…
Keeping it Real
I’ve been slow in answering letters lately. I’ve got lots of material for lots of columns and I’m noticing a pattern. Lack of love. So much of the advice I give is crap unless you proceed from the assumption that all partners love each other. And cupcake, I ain’t talkin’ here about hormonal carbonation, nor…
Bait and Switch in Polyamory
I don’t know if I’m not really poly or just got myself into a bad situation my first time out. I met a man who said he was poly, and I liked him. I thought about it really long and hard and decided that I would like to explore a relationship with him. He is…
Polyamory and Coming Out to Family
This podcast: http://www.thestranger.com/SavageLovePodcast/archives/2012/09/11/savage-love-episode-307 talks about coming out to your parents about being polyamorous. Dan, however, doesn’t have a lot of experience and requested those who do to write in. I suggested your blog as a great resource and I think it would be great if you directed your readers to share their insights with this…
Candy Store Polyamory: How much is enough?
\ My ex-gf helped me discover that I’m poly, like her. We’re in a romantic friendship now, because things just feel right that way instead of a friendship or serious relationship. I also have another fromance going on, and a primary boyfriend. We communicate EVERYTHING, it’s my first relationship where my partner is as open…
How to Find Girls for Polyamory
This is one of my search term-inspired columns. Someone got to the site with this, so I figured I’d answer it. You find polyamorous relationships more or less like you find any other. Go out. Do stuff you like to do. Meet people doing that stuff, too. You’ll meet some that suit you and you…
Girls Can Be Creepy, Too
My current problem is this: How do I get guys to not run away screaming when they find out I’m married? At least I think that’s my problem… I’ll explain below. I come across a guy and he seems interesting, so I want to get to know him better. So I added him on. Well…
Be Yourself Just as Hard as You Can
I am new to the poly life style and am having a hard time sharing my husband of 13 years with another woman. It is something we had always talked about and thought about but now – that it is happening I am having such a hard time with jealously – and these feelings that…
What the Hell is WRONG with You People?
Okay, I’ve had it with the whole boilin’ of you nutcases! What in the hell is wrong with you that you’re okay with treating other human beings as need fulfillment objects? A good seventy percent of the letters I get aren’t about how to handle a person to person relationship, but how to get another…